As I type this I am 5 months away from making the biggest move of my life, and as you can imagine there are a lot of emotions involved, including that of those closest to me.
Making a move, even if only across town, is a stressful & exciting time and moving abroad is no different in that sense, but on top of that there are the fears of whether you’re doing the right thing, the dread of leaving those closest to you and not seeing them as regularly as you are used to, the uncertainty of the unknown and the surreal feeling in the lead up to the move that it doesn’t quite feel ‘real’ yet.
I also cannot forget that this is also a scary time for those closest to me. For my family, who I am very close to, they have been very supportive of my decision, but deep down they too have their own emotions on the move, as ultimately it will affect them too. So I thought it might be useful to get their side of the story…
“I’m going to miss Paula sooooo much but I a very excited for her. She is very brave following her dreams and I really hope it all works out for her. All I can say is thank goodness for Facebook! At least I can look forward to some lovely holidays 🙂 After working 9-5 for most of my life I am pleased she is breaking the mould but I can’t help being worried about what she is letting herself in for and, of course, her safety but you have to encourage your kids to fly and she is really doing that!”
“When I first heard my sister say “I’m thinking about moving to Asia” I truly thought, yeah right! Although I love my sister, sometimes she changes her mind about this sort of thing. As time goes by though I’m seeing this is getting more serious and she is actually going to leave 🙁 My main concern is of course for her happiness, although I’m excited for her and her relationship with her boyfriend, what happens if he breaks her heart and she is half way round the world? What if they have a fight and she has no one to talk to?
I love my sister unconditionally but I’m very conflicted about this massive move. On the one had I’m happy for her, I’m happy that she is taking a risk and leaving the norm, but on the other hand she is my sister! She has never been that far away from me and when she went travelling this year I felt a little lost without her, I was worried that she’d get hurt in a foreign land and we wouldn’t be a car drive away to get to her, I suppose I feel like I can’t protect her that far away. We are such a close family and we love her more than we can say.
All in all I know that if worst comes to worse then we will be here for her whenever she needs us. I hope with my whole heart that everything goes well, but like any close family I will always worry about her.”
My 4 year old Nephew
“Want you to stay”… surprised he was so nice actually, normally he ignores me lol (kids!)
And lastly, here is how I feel…
It’s a wierd feeling really, I am a really impatient person so all I want to do is move now, but in the back of my head I know I should cherish these last few months I have of living in the place I have been for my entire 31 years, and with the people I have shared everything with over that time. It also feels quite surreal, and until I actually buy that plane ticket you never know what might happen, but I do know this…leaving the people I love most in the world, and then only get to see them face to face once or twice a year is going to be the hardest and saddest thing I’ve ever done.
This has been a particularly soppy post but hey, leaving to do something so exciting is not without emotions…and really, what did you expect from a post titled ‘the emotions of moving abroad’ ha.
Have you been through a similar experience? I’d love to hear how it went for you