I’ve come to the conclusion at the ripe old age of 31 i’m in the midst of a quarter-life crisis (assuming i live to 124 that is!).
There are a number of reasons for this that i will go into in a second, but first i just wanted to ponder this for a moment…a quarter-life crisis?? what the hell is that anyway, and since when did people start actually having them?? Mid-life crisis yes, but quarter-life…a crisis of identity at the prime age of 30(ish), whats up with that!
Now, my firm belief is that this is a totally new phenomenon to this particular generation (Gen Y) as a result of a couple of things at play, one of those being the high expectation for us as women to not only do all the things that women are supposed to do (have you tried finding a boyfriend, let alone a husband in London these days, and dont even get me started on kids!), but also to be a successful career woman at the same time. I’m my humble opinion trying to achieve both of these things is pretty hard work…but that’s just me 🙂
Apparently a clever scientist type (yes i can do research!) Behavioural psychologist, Dr Donna Dawson, also added that: “On the whole, young people are much more stressed than previous generations were…They leave university saddled with debt, life is more expensive, and it’s harder to get on the property ladder. That is why we are seeing this epidemic.”
Well i’m glad its not just me, but i’m a little concerned i’m involved in an epidemic!!
She added: “Young people feel under so much pressure to prove themselves, and the constant struggle to keep up a certain image means you can end up with a sense of failure and emptiness.”
OK i’m not sure i’d consider myself a “young person” (haha) but this sounds far too much like me now…ekkk
Life is stressful! i’ve been putting myself under so much pressure to achieve what society tells me i should achieve that enough was enough…i was outta here!
Going travelling and getting some ‘perspective‘ really helped me see that what i thought i wanted wasn’t actually right for me, and i’m now in the process of chucking it all it…who needs kids anyway (!!). So, i guess im still in a transiton period of this little ‘identity crisis’ of mine but i’m totally viewing it as a positive thing 🙂
I’m sure a lot of people out there may have felt like this in recent years, and i wonder what they would be doing about all this. For me, im jumping ship…but for most they may not have this option, so battle through. I guess if a lot of the reason why people have these so’called quarter-life crisis’ is money pressures then they won’t be going out and buying a shiny new sports car now will they??
Do you feel lost, stressed and feel like just chucking it all in? feel free to share your experiences below